After leaving for college, your child will have already spent the majority of the total time with you in your life. In this post, The Tail End, writer Tim Urban calculates after finishing high school, “I had already used up 93% of my in-person parent time”.
That means there’s not much time left you’ll spend with your child. They’re now taking the next step in their professional life. It’s time for you to start planning for this transition.
First Child Going to College
The first kid’s off to school! This is an exciting time. What will you do now with your free time? Pick up a new hobby? Start a new diet? Invest in a litter of puppies?
Before you get into this, the best step you can make is to make sure your kid feels safe. The most important thing you can do is show them you love them and are thinking of them, but also give them space to explore.
Be present in their life, but also allow them to experiment with who they want to be. Allow the opportunity to reach for the stars and if they fall, be there to catch them.
Child Leaving for College Depression
It can be easy to fall into a sense of melancholy once our kid leaves. You’ve spent the past 18-19 years watching them grow. Now you must watch them go off by themselves.
All that time prepping them and leading them through life is now going to be challenged by the “real world”. College really isn’t the “real world”, but it’s their first taste of it. The best thing you can do is be happy for them.
Now, it’s time to plan what you what to do next. Get back into that diet you’ve been working and thinking about. Re-subscribe to the gym. Start painting again. Learn a language, travel, read more. Maybe this is a sign that you should start investing in your education?
Be happy for your kid and happy for yourself. This isn’t a time to get down. It’s time for transition and change. Feeling sad is natural, but it shouldn’t become normal.
Goodbye letter to Son/Daughter Going to College
Sending your son or daughter a goodbye letter is a great idea. It’s a very personal way to show them you’re thinking of them. Print out some of your favorite pictures together to add to the letter. Have the whole family sign it. Make it personal.
For more advice on what to say, follow this link!
Is my Child Ready for College?
Probably no, but who is… That’s part of the magic of college. It teaches you to stay on their toes. It teaches you to take on challenges in real-time and to come up with solutions. Who are my friends? Where’s my go-to grocery store? Where’s the closest Starbucks? Where do I do my laundry?
For friends, food and coffee part we can’t help. But if you want to take one of those burdens off their shoulders, we can assist with laundry. Type in their zip code on this link, to make sure we deliver to their location. Tell us how they like their laundry done and we can take it off the list.
The rest… they’ll have to figure it out.
Your kid is going to college! We’re excited for them. We hope you both have a smooth experience. To read more from our blog you can follow us here, thanks!